How To Make Friends In A New City

Photo Cred: CreateHER Stock
Photo Cred: CreateHER Stock

Around August of last year, I randomly made the big move from Charlotte, NC to Dallas, TX. While many of my loved ones found it terrifying for me to leave home and move to a city, I was never afraid or worried about the move. I never had problems making friends in high school or college, so I imagined it would be just as easy when I moved to Dallas, TX. Boy was I wrong!

 

When I arrived in Dallas I was overwhelmed by how huge it was. I’d visited before, but I didn’t explore the city the way I was after first moving here. However, just going around from place to place wasn’t making me any friends, so I had to figure out how to meet my people. Here are my tips for doing just that!

 

#(Insert City Here)

When I moved to Dallas, I didn’t really know many people. Because of that, I didn’t know what there was to do here. Because I’m always on Instagram, I decided to search #DallasTX one day. There were so many people using the hashtag that I easily found different events to go to and the cool places that people hang out at!

Because I am a Tone It Up girl, I also used #TIUDallas and #TIUDFW to meet like-minded people in Dallas!

Meetup.com

Meetup.com is a great way to meet your tribe! There are groups for everyone and everything! Groups that I joined after coming to Dallas were groups for women in their 20’s and 30’s, singles groups (at the time I didn’t know Anthony), Happy Hour groups and fitness groups. Here are some tips for finding good groups:

  • Make sure they have events planned (and people attending those events)
  • Join groups that have a bunch of members. They are more likely to be active.
  • Be open-minded and try new things! You never know what new hobbies you will fall in love with and how awesome the people in that group are!

Just say yes!

One of the biggest things that helped me make friends was saying yes to the people I met! If they asked me out to coffee, I’d say yes! If they wanted to go to fitness classes, I’d say yes! You never know what new things you’ll learn from that person, or what new people you may meet through them!  You are never going to meet people or form relationships if you don’t get out of your apartment and out of your comfort zone.

Hit the gym…

…and don’t be afraid to talk to people while you’re there! Gyms aren’t just for hitting on the hot guy lifting weights asking him how some simple machine works anymore. Its a great place to meet friends! Hit a Zumba class and ask the person next to you if they know of any healthy restaurants around. Tell them you’re new to the area! You won’t believe how many people are happy to show you around town.

Go out alone

This is probably the toughest  one for some people, and it definitely takes you out of your comfort zone. But you will never meet people locked up in your apartment. Go to dinner alone. Don’t sit at a table, because you probably won’t meet people that way. Sit at the bar! People are normally more talkative and open at the bar. I would always ask people where the fun places to hang out were and what restaurants were the best in the area. I’ve never gotten so many numbers at a bar as I have since moving to Dallas.

 

 

The main thing when trying to make friends in a new city is that you just can’t afraid to talk to people. There aren’t many people I’ve met that don’t smile when I tried to talk to them. And if you’re worried about being awkward or weird, just don’t. I can be super awkward when I first meet people but I promise the more you do it, the more you’ll get comfortable with talking to strangers.

Oh, and I haven’t mentioned it yet, but BE SAFE! Don’t get in the car with strangers, and don’t invite people to your new apartment until you get to know them! Go out and meet all the new people that you want, but please be smart and don’t give out too much information. Learn the landmarks by your house so if someone asks what part of town you live in you can keep it broad and say something like, “Oh, I live in Addison near Whole Foods.” That way they can get an idea of where you live, without actually knowing where you live!

 

I hope these tips help you guys make new friends in your city! They’re good for people moving to new cities as well as people looking for new friends in their old cities! Just remember have fun and be safe.

 

Which of these tips do you think will be most helpful? What are your favorite ways to meet new people? Let me know in the comments below!

gingermarieblog

I’m a twenty-something lifestyle blogger who tries not to take life too seriously. I think laughing and running are the cure to everything especially when its done in a new city. I think a balanced diet is important, and that they’re much easier when they include chocolate. :)

44 Comments
    1. I know there are a TON of family-oriented groups on Meetup! Or even going to local parks and talking with some of the other parents you see there. I’m not a parent so I can’t say too much on that scenario, but I think those would help. 😀

  1. It’s so weird trying to make friends after college! When I was in school, friends just fell in my lap and now I find it so challenging to put myself out there with new people. Thanks for sharing these awesome tips.

    Best Wishes,
    Allison

  2. Great tips! I’ve had that problem now that I’m 40 something and I’ve grown in a different direction than my friends I had when I moved here 15 years ago. Also, being without a husband and children, it seems everyone I meet would be like oh I have kid stuff or let me check my husbands schedule. I love networking associations too. Its a challenge still. I’m learning the initiate small talk.

  3. These are great tips. Even though I didn’t move, I became a mom and had to make a lot of new friends because I no longer work and stay at home. Meet-up has been an awesome resource, as well as going places alone (with the kids) and talking to people at the gym.

  4. These are some great tips! I moved from Roanoke, VA (small-ish town) to Los Angeles, to DC and back to Roanoke, VA. It’s been hardest to make friends back in my home town. I joined the Junior League to meet like-minded women my age. So far it’s been great! Maybe check out Dallas’s Junior League and see if it would be something you’d be interested it.

  5. Thanks for the great tips! Making friends in a new city can definitely be hard! Going to different social events is key in my opinion. You have to go where the people are. I use some of these tips when I travel solo. I love to travel alone, but there are times when I want to meet other people and chat with someone besides myself 🙂 Meetup.com is a great way to do that! And sitting at the bar is also a good tip. Thanks!

  6. First, let me say how much I love your site! The colors are bold and your content is amazing! You had some great tips in this post. I look forward to reading more!

  7. This are such great advice! I am an extremely shy person (borderline social anxiety), but these are little milestones that anyone can manage to accomplish when meeting new people in a new city! Will definitely have to get back into meet-up. I was looking in the wrong groups because there were so many people inactive in them. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Yes! It definitely helps to look at their activities and how many people are attending! Good luck, and don’t worry! People that you wouldn’t even expect are just as nervous as you! Just put yourself out there and stay true to your personality! 😀

  8. Great ideas! I’m not in a new city per se, but moving back to one that I’ve been away from after a few years away and most of my friend in the city have moved elsewhere so it almost feels like I’m starting in a new one 🙂

  9. i moved to Dallas four years ago and still have difficulties finding friends i want to hang out with. i have some co workers and few friends but would love to find a group something interesting. i have never tried meet up groups or anything. on that note, we need to meet up for coffee or something one of these days.

  10. We moved cross country to Atlanta three years ago and it has been an adventure making friends. I definitely wish I had seen this post and I know it will help someone else who has the same things on their heart!!

  11. I live in a very small town and I never get out and make new friends. lol I work, I go home. I go to church, I go home. I have a family and help keep my elderly mom on her feet. I have no time to make new friends. It seems most people I know, actually know everyone in town, but I don’t. This is a good list for sure. I don’t think I could go out by myself. As a young adult in my 20’s I went to the movies alone once. Nope, will never do that again. I felt so awkward. lol

  12. Oh, I’m about to move to a different town and my greatest worry is not being able to meet people that I can relate to. I so get it. In an attempt to be proactive, I joined a local running club. Fingers crossed!!

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